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That's So Ravin': What About Your Friends?

Got a burning question for Ravin? Email her with your thoughts, dilemmas, and all-out rants at ravin.samoan@vice.com.

Last week we answered some questions you were afraid to ask your friends. This week we'll help you decide whether you are rolling with the right crew or not. Still fucking up? Just remember that Ravin is here for the kids.Got a burning question for our That's So Ravin? Email her with your thoughts, dilemmas, and all-out rants at ravin.samoan@vice.com

Dear Ravin,
My cheapo friends will not go out to hear good DJs if they have to pay a cover, but they will buy drinks all night with no problem. It's so dumb and I'm starting to think they don't even like the music they say they do.
James, Brooklyn.

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Dear James,
Not all good parties have to cost money. Some of the best events I've been to in my life were free of charge. If you really want to test your theory let your friends decide on a cover-free night and go with them. Observe, bite your lip, and if the you think the music sucks see how they react to it. If they claim it was the best ever then challenge them to a party you choose with a good lineup and basic cover charge. In the light of day point out the differences in sound, music, and crowd quality - and claim your case.

If they still can't agree: 1 point James, 0 points poser friends.

Dear Ravin,
My only friend that likes to go out with me to good stuff is a real Dj Ho. It doesn't even matter who it is she always finds a way in the booth and usually goes home with them. I'm kinda tired of being her wingwoman and I am afraid people think I am her slut partner in crime.
C.J., Hoboken.

Dear C.J.,
Many a young lady enjoys a man on stage. Power. It's like Attraction for Dummies. The Dj is orchestrating the sound, and telling the crowd how to move and what to feel. Ok, I get it. In fact, I've been there. It can be a major turn on. The thing is every city has it's own version of "your friend" and every DJ knows it. If your pal is doing the deed to get her kicks and feels like she's winning, then more power to her. If she's breaking off a piece of her heart everytime (especially if you are supporting her through these low's) - then she's headed for an emo-fallout. As long as you keep doing your thing and aren't sleazin' into the booth with her, you won't look like a slut - just a fan who came to dance.

Got a burning question for Ravin? Email her with your thoughts, dilemmas, and all-out rants at ravin.samoan@vice.com